Psychologist: To " honey of boudoir " Great to pour out one's grievances instead more depressed

Psychologist: To " honey of boudoir " Great to pour out one's grievances instead more depressed
The women will usually be happy, when you feel lonely and lonely and sad, a friend can pour out at one's side, can let you incline and pour out one's grievances arbitrarily. However, the psychologist, through the finding, falling too much in misery between the women friends, may cause the cause of the mood question such as being anxious and depressed.
In recent years, some psychologists in U.S.A. have carried on two investigations to people's feeling of loneliness: The interviewees of 100% of an investigation say that often feel loneliness; Another investigation finds too that there are 67% of the persons that often feel loneliness. The women will usually be happy, when you feel lonely and lonely and sad, a friend can pour out at one's side, can let you incline and pour out one's grievances arbitrarily. But new scientific research tell us whether whom you will receive at the soul when pouring out relieve and not comfortable perhaps, but if things go on like this will cause your sum " The honey of boudoir " Depression inclination.
Recently, the psychologist, through the finding, falling too much in misery between the women friends, not only useless and instead harmful for solve problem, will cause the intersection of mood and production of issue anxious and depressed.
The researchers of U.S.A. Missouri State university use " Ruminate together " Describe and indulge in and discuss the behavior of the same question excessively. The psychologist says, this kind of behavior is very general among women especially young girl, they get together, discuss " why he phone often? " "Should I say good-bye to him? " ,etc. emotion issue. Message, transfer by telegram,etc. modern to it links up meanses to be greatly convenient strengthening exchanging between the the intersection of women and friend and linking up even more. But this kind of discussion often causes the depressed consequence for them.
Unhealthy mood is known too " Infect "
The expert warns, " ruminate together " There is infective the potential one in the behavior, cause unhealthy mood to infect each other among women friend. The expert points out, " ruminate together " With " share " Essentially completely different, the latter can promote positive mood and healthy friendship. Women are originally apter to be depressed and anxious than men, and " ruminate together " It is unable to free oneself to strand women in the negative thoughtcast. However, the expert points out, " ruminate together " Also may strengthen the friendship, and such intimate friendship is strengthened to people self-confidently but beneficial to.
The expert says, such perceptual dialogue take place fewer between the male friends, and will not aggravate their anxious or depressed mood either. The expert says: "When it is worried to tell each other in the heart as the girls, they may feel better because of getting support and affirming. But because they are not judging the case as it stands, they may the more suspiciously the feeling have a chat about, the poorer. "
The expert points out, the young girl entering adolescence is easier to have " ruminate together " Behavior,getting easier too depressed or anxiety. She says: "The young girl faces a lot of pressure sources in adolescence, a lot among them are equivocal, for example begin to date with the opposite sex, afraid whether oneself is welcomed etc. by others. " It is reported, at present, have something to do and " ruminate together " Research stay only negative effect at their ones that causes in a short time. But the expert points out, there is one kind on psychology " mood is infected " Or " infective and anxious " Phenomenon,last the ones long period.
Should be absorbed in solving the problem instead of indulging in
The expert says, should walk out and " ruminate together " The negative function brought, a key among them is to absorb in solving the problem, but not indulge in and lie in question oneself.
Psychological associate professor Ma Fang says: "The boundary line among them is very delicate. We hope to encourage girls to make friends, seek the friend's support, but we hope they can learn more positive skills, learn how to solve the problem. " And the expert proposes, women go on experience and solution that should attempt to transfer from problem to the focus when the experience is worried. It is (high and happy)
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