Psychological expert: " passive growth " Destroy children and study the initiative
Case: The little great mother reflects, small and great and in primary school very excited, listen to teacher very much, say it is very interesting that the teacher gives lessons, the textbook is very interesting. Mother consults a lot of parents, summarize " valuable experience " very diligently ,Including forming child's good writing the homework habit.
Since then, leave school, it is little to ask " Mr. stay the homework " while being great for mother to see ,And is exhorting children constantly " Go home and write the homework first " . A small a great spelling is written irregularly, Papa and Mama demand to wipe off and rewrite immediately.
In junior middle school, mother said a lot of things were too little and great to communicate with parents, parents' question was unwilling to answer too, especially reveal, detest, study mood, even homework want, make sometimes.
The psychological expert analyzes: This is a child " Passive growth " Common cultivation phenomenon: When the child plays with with enthusiasm, parents should embrace and go the child, when the child lies quietly in bed and freely, parents let the child stand up and practise creeping again. The questions of parents lie in the method: In order to interrupt and comply with on the intersection of child and original interest and attention as the characteristic, it is only with simplicity " Help children " It is a purpose, make the child totally in passive state, block the child's initiative learning process, may form child's bad study to accept used to.
Each child has different behavior in study, use " good habit " of the strictness To demand to treat children high-standardly, parents are " with goodwill " Often make result and expectation differ greatly. So, there should be a bit fewer and eager for quick success parents, stimulate the interest of child's initiative study. (staff reporter Zhang ShuLing puts in order)
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