The pinching clan does not treat pressure as the excuse Watch out for the death instinct of subconscious

The pinching clan does not treat pressure as the excuse Watch out for the death instinct of subconscious
The expert supports
Wang HongJiao Master of psychology, psychological consultation teacher in the country second, Shanghai live abroad in the technological institute of the job newly Lecturer
Sun JiaYi Bosom friend's psychological referral centre Consult a teacher
" if feel blue, go to the supermarket to pinch the instant noodles " ,At present new " Prevail " ,This spreads from the network popularly, expedite child delivery in " pinching clan " . Pinch garrulous instant noodles, course of biscuit, let they stimulate and sense of achievement stealthily in supermarket. As we probe into " Pinch " But finds, the so-called high pressure looks for and leads the channel off at the time of the behavioral profound reason, just surface reason.
The incident is returned
" pinching clan " A word appears first in a model of the network, claims to " goes to the supermarket to do shopping and all like taking the advantage that the waiter is out and pinching several packs of instant noodles each time above, that sound, that feeling, let me receive great satisfaction. " The model leaps up red rapidly, " if feel blue, go to the supermarket to pinch the instant noodles " Prevailing in white collar at present QQ signature. In some large-scale forum, have net friend write sentence " high pressure may go to the supermarket to pinch the instant noodles, do you have counterpart " ,Can cause an online relay, even someone proposes that " not only should pinch the instant noodles, also pinch the biscuit, twist the soda, squeeze toothpaste out of a tube " .
Some control videos of supermarket of Chengdu are struck and been " The pinching clan " ,A young man has swept all around rapidly while strolling around by the instant noodles shelve in the video, while finding nobody around, the man's hands are stretched out from the trouser pocket slowly, begin to knead repeatedly after catching the next bag of instant noodles from shelve, finish kneading, put back to the shelve again.
The high pressure is only a surface reason
" pinching clan " Prevalence,is it red and handsome to last king if you can't associate it with, play by a bubble the experiences of papers plastic as a child as soon as possible, the cushion bubble spent to resist shock steep the paper in little box of electrical home appliances, will let people pinch down fascinatedly one by one, and always enjoy. "The mental process, follow pinching personning who pinch present in fact stimuli won feel very much alike at pinching things, but it is more complicated for the latter, include more psychological reasons. So far as as describe in that model of network forum,' That sound, that feeling, satisfied that let me get the great one '. "
Wang HongJiao analyzes, in the pinching clan, some people are that that kind of script pinch the instant noodles, pinch the biscuit,etc. when not thinking of the high pressure at all, can suddenly see others' MSN signed, was talking about this question in the online forum, it seems that this kind of behavior is a kind of fashion. To them, have new things they go, try soon, so some people these join reason of person who pinch essence their to follow the trend blindly. This is why too " Pinch " Behavior very much easy to prevail in young people, because young people like, go, imitate new born behavior always, they do not like being thought to fall behind oneself.
If the reason that is the simplest level of following the trend blindly, then the reason of the second level is the high pressure that most people will think of, use " pinch " The behavior comes to lead the pressure off. Sun JiaYi points out, this kind of people is often swayed by considerations of gain or loss in actual life, the ideal keeps the same with reality no, the psychology is uneven, can't often get others' attention. "It may be only that the accidental destruction causes heart to produce the happy feeling at first, find a kind of balanced sense, then they will repeat this kind of behavior and so as to relieve anxious mood. Become as time passes, realize, so is fine as them, should control, but unable automatic control. Try hard to get rid of, but repeatly try repeatly frustrating, produce greater spirit to torment. "
" stealthily " Could be enjoyable
As to the reason of first two levels, the reason of the third level is obviously buried deeperly, its subconscious from people. Wang HongJiao points out: "If pinch the instant noodles, pinch biscuit, twisting the soda, squeezing toothpaste out of a tube,etc. ' pinch ' the behavior is that one kind leads pressure and anxious behavior off, why not hear anyone of these ' pinching clan ' buys a big bag of instant noodles, biscuit,etc. and comes back home and pinches one it has been enough? Also a psychology of theirs is exactly experienced: Go on stealthily, is rich in riskiness, have irritation even more. The more important thing is to bring to others and destroy the result yet, but he is that this behavioral successful implementer has not been noticed yet! "
" stealthily " Too diligent to find, they will obtain great sense of achievement when the behavior is successful, why will the sense of achievement emerge? Wang HongJiao analyzes, that is to control the sense, self-efficiency sense, his behavior control others, what he has received on a kind of ability is self- definite. "How were pressure and anxiety produced? Or a kind of mood appearing while going beyond oneself in the range that ability can know in realistic state, make people produce the intersection of setback and sense, and the behavior that pinch stealthily to make people feel, get one control self-indulged in sense and ability. "
Watch out for the death instinct hidden in subconscious
Floyd thinks people have two kinds of instincts: Grow instinct and death instinct. The former means all instincts of making the life extend and march forward to the beautiful side. The latter means all destruction lives, destroys the instinct of the life, dividing into externally and two internal parts, externally such as attack, hatred, war,etc., internal to just feel guilty, be guilty, commit suicide etc.. Have by mankind if the instinct dies. Generally speaking this kind of destruction psychology (the instinct dies) of people's In subconscious, but will burst out if the instinct dies when people's psychological state appear unevenly, even very fierce.
Those persons launching a war, person with antisocial personality, the instinct that the person who still commits suicide often dies - -Heart destroys strength - -Very strong person. Die the intersection of instinct and light person a bit, may show as love destroy public property, like, play, have a kick at wall into corridor, leaving the striking footprint, perhaps he can not speak clearly why either, but just like playing. Wang HongJiao thinks, " pinching clan " Behavior too to be which die instinctive in every one for response. It is not then violence that just external to seem. "He the intersection of house and oneself have biscuit, have a lot of things may pinch, break to pieces, why people these pinch own house? Go to the supermarket? Because their inherent idea is to cause certain destruction to the outside, perhaps they themselves do not admit either for this point, they think they just like that a series of development, such a sound. " Meanwhile, the violence that pinching clan do not like such foreign destruction again to seem too and bringing too great loss to others. Then we just find, pinching clans are mostly white collar personages, have certain quality, will not do too great destruction.
The expert gives an idea
Take to one's own behavioral reflective thought at first, especially those persons following the trend blindly, the real reason which has pondered over oneself such behavioral back, perhaps would not do it in this way.
Second, is not so good as using slipping into the time to pinch the things in the supermarket for taking exercises, for example run, swim etc., sports not only can reduce pressure and anxiety slowly, can also strengthen self- strength, it is self-confident to increase, or, go to see a film, read two good books, also can become good substitution.
Third, appear, tear wasted paper, play pillow, fight the quilt,etc. at home going want mood that give vent to, as heart, use these behaviors to lead the mood smouldered off out.
Fourth, those pinch habit-forming wanting personning that changing now already, can in the intersection of wrist and the intersection of upper cover and previous sticks of rubber band, as have, want, play one's own wrist with the rubber band pinch the impulse of things, in supermarket, play to and think very painful and playing to thought and dispelling oneself.
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